How to handle a difficult termination without a lawsuit

Nobody enjoys this part of running a business. When a termination goes badly, it's rarely because the decision was wrong. It's because of how it was documented, when it happened, or how it was delivered. If you don't have an HR department, here's a plan you can follow, from the week before to the week after.

Want it on one page to work through as you go? Grab the termination checklist.

Before the meeting

• Write down the real reason in one or two sentences. This is the reason you'll stick to. If it changes later, it looks like you're making it up.
• Pull the paper trail. Job description, reviews, warnings, signed policies, attendance records, and relevant emails. If the trail is thin, slow down and talk to someone before you act.
• Check for red flags. Has the employee recently complained about pay or safety, reported something, taken or requested leave, filed a workers' compensation claim, asked for accommodation, or announced a pregnancy? Are they 40 or older? None of these means you can't proceed, but timing and documentation matter a lot. Pause and get advice.
• Check for consistency. How did you handle the last person who did the same thing? If the answer is "differently," that's a problem to solve first.
• Plan the logistics. Pick a private space and a time that isn't public. Bring one other person as a witness, not a crowd. Decide in advance how you'll handle system access, the final paycheck, benefits information, and returning equipment.
• Decide on severance. It's optional. If you offer money in exchange for the employee agreeing not to sue, that's a release, and an attorney should draft it. For employees 40 or older, federal law generally requires giving at least 21 days to consider it (45 for group layoffs) and seven days to change their mind afterward.

In the meeting

Keep it short, kind, and clear. Ten to 15 minutes is enough. The decision is made, so don't invite a debate.

Here's a script you can adapt:

"Thanks for meeting with me. I've made the decision to end your employment, effective today. The reason is [one specific reason]. I know this is hard to hear. I'd like to walk you through what happens next: your final pay, your benefits, and returning company property. Do you have questions about those?"

A few things that help:

• Say the reason once. Don't stack up extra reasons to justify it. Every added reason is something to argue about.
• Don't apologize in a way that sounds like you did something wrong. You can be kind without taking it back.
• Let them react. Silence is okay. Don't fill it with explanations.
• Stay off personal comments. No opinions on their attitude, age, health, or family situation.
• Have the logistics on paper. Final pay date, benefits, and who to contact.

After the meeting

• Final pay. Virginia generally requires final wages to be paid by the next regular payday. If your policy says accrued PTO gets paid out, include it.
• Benefits. Give the employee information on ending health coverage and continuation options. Federal COBRA covers employers with 20 or more employees, and Virginia has its own continuation rules for smaller groups.
• Unemployment. The Virginia Employment Commission may contact you about a claim. Respond by the deadline, with accurate and consistent facts.
• Access and equipment. Turn off logins and payroll access the same day, and collect keys, laptops, and other company property.
• Records. Save your meeting notes, the documentation, and signed acknowledgments in a personnel file.
• References. Have one policy, like confirming dates of employment and title only, and use it every time.
• Your team. Keep it short and neutral. "[Name] is no longer with the company. Please send questions about their work to [person]."

Mistakes that turn into lawsuits

• Changing the reason later. It's the fastest way to look like the first reason was made up.
• Firing right after protected activity. A complaint, a leave request, or a workers' comp claim followed by a termination invites a retaliation claim, even if your reasons were legitimate.
• Skipping the warnings. If this is the first time the employee is hearing about a problem, expect pushback.
• Documenting after the fact. Notes written after the decision, with dates that don't match, don't help you.
• Treating similar employees differently.
• Firing by text or email in the heat of the moment.

When to call an attorney

Bring in an employment attorney before you act if any of these are true: the employee recently made a complaint, took protected leave, or filed a claim, the employee has a contract, you're planning to offer a severance agreement, you're letting several people go at once, or the employee has already said they'll sue. Paying for a review before is far cheaper than defending a claim after.

Keep reading

• At-will employment in Virginia: what it means for your business: why the rule isn't as simple as it sounds.
• PTO policy basics: what small businesses get wrong: what you owe when someone leaves.

Facing a hard decision?

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This post is for general informational purposes and doesn't constitute legal advice. Termination rules depend on your specific facts, your number of employees, and any contract or policy involved. Talk to an employment attorney before you terminate in a risky situation.